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Hi Celeste

I am so sorry to hear your news - what an absolute bugger! :-(

I too have walked in your shoes.  Cry, cry, cry - let it all out and then some more.  

I was diagnosed with lung mets in June while on chemo treatment for early BC - I was 38 and have 3 small children - it isn't fair at all - you are not to blame.  

As Amy said - the Hopes and Hurdles pack is a good start.  The psychologist is good too but if you don't like the first one, try another - until you find the right one for you.  

There is much hope for those of us with Stage 4 disease - It sounds like you are Her2+ve - don't read the stats - they are old - there is so much research going on into Her2 disease and treatment and my oncologist talks about managing it as a chronic illness long term.  There is always hope - it will take time and there are lots of ups and downs - go with them.  

we have a living with Secondary breast cancer group on here - it is private - if you search for it (I don't know how to provide the link) and apply to join you can maybe get some more information there too.

Be gentle with yourself and reach out to all who offer support including us.

Much love and light to you,

Amanda x