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Hi @Hendrix
we all get it as we're in the nightmare, roller coaster or journey or any other naming word you can think of to describe the situation. Families and friends mean well and it is hard sometimes not to get frustrated by their response or lack thereof occasionally. I lost a dear friend of 40 years over this; turned out perhaps she wasn't so dear after all! She was driving me totally nutty, doubting my specialists et cetera Mind you she's never had cancer, critical of everything, even my hospital room, which I was happy and comfortable in and I found solace as I was recuperating from mastectomy. At one stage I said what do you want me to do get the yellow pages out and ring every surgeon.
The most important thing here is to have faith in your team. Remember your breast care nurse is your go to and we are all here; someone is always online to read and answer or give you a like or an awesome. You can vent away and or ask as many questions as you like.
I was put with a Counsellor the day of diagnosis, she shadowed me all day as I went through mammogram, ultrasound, meeting the surgeon and biopsy..................she was very very good to me! She suggested to my hubby that he be the gatekeeper and just keep the negative nellies out of reach. Surround yourself with positive people and have the gatekeeper keep the others informed indirectly rather than directly. You need your sanity, you need to be able to laugh or cry, stamp the feet whatever you need to do without a frown or a comment of be positive, coming your way!
Take care
we all get it as we're in the nightmare, roller coaster or journey or any other naming word you can think of to describe the situation. Families and friends mean well and it is hard sometimes not to get frustrated by their response or lack thereof occasionally. I lost a dear friend of 40 years over this; turned out perhaps she wasn't so dear after all! She was driving me totally nutty, doubting my specialists et cetera Mind you she's never had cancer, critical of everything, even my hospital room, which I was happy and comfortable in and I found solace as I was recuperating from mastectomy. At one stage I said what do you want me to do get the yellow pages out and ring every surgeon.
The most important thing here is to have faith in your team. Remember your breast care nurse is your go to and we are all here; someone is always online to read and answer or give you a like or an awesome. You can vent away and or ask as many questions as you like.
I was put with a Counsellor the day of diagnosis, she shadowed me all day as I went through mammogram, ultrasound, meeting the surgeon and biopsy..................she was very very good to me! She suggested to my hubby that he be the gatekeeper and just keep the negative nellies out of reach. Surround yourself with positive people and have the gatekeeper keep the others informed indirectly rather than directly. You need your sanity, you need to be able to laugh or cry, stamp the feet whatever you need to do without a frown or a comment of be positive, coming your way!
Take care