Hey Lisa,
If it helps, I've been doing this 6 years and had it twice and not much support really, I always went alone to appointments. What I suggest is, a deep breath and remind yourself no matter what they say, you are going to be OK! A Surgeon shouldn't comment to be honest as they have no idea in the way the Oncologist does. I love my Surgeon of 6yrs but he did the same, so I went in thinking I had a few options, but I had NONE. Chemo that was it unfortunately. I was so distressed when I left I sat in my car and cried for a half hour. So in hindsight I would say to be open, just hear what they say in regards to your pathology, even ask for a copy of it too. Then just listen to what their recommendation/s are, if they say anything that doesnt make sense, just ask. You can also think of questions later and email them, thats what I did, and it was really helpful. I'm 19 months post chemo now and I never dreamed I'd be finally enjoying life again and feeling the best I have in the past few years. Remind yourself, theres nothing that they could say that could surprise or shock you..it helps keep you calm and take it in your stride. All the best. Melinda xo
