Hi @mericelle,
The waiting is a pain. Unfortunately the whole shebang with BC is full of endless waiting and waiting.
My first surgical appointment was 1wk after diagnosis. That was pretty quick but there were nodes involved so they moved along a bit.
I had 1 month from diagnosis to surgery, most of that my choice because I wanted a lumpectomy and we couldn't find the darn thing. It wasn't going to do much in a month and according to the surgeon it was slow growing and had probably been there for years so we had time to look for it.
Everybody is different and surprisingly I was not one of those people who had to "get it out straight away". I felt fine, I looked fine and was more than content with having a month to get my head around things before starting the process.
Breast cancer is a very busy business. All BC referrals are category 1 straight up, however, an aggressive stage 3 cancer will be moved up the list before a less aggressive stage 1 etc.
How is your mother going? Does she know how anxious you are? Have a good chat and see where she's at with the whole thing.
Take a deep breath. This thing is one step at a time, sometimes one hour at a time.
All the best lovely. She'll be ok. Promise.
xoxoxox
Thank you for sharing your experience. My mum seems fine but I am conscious that she might be much more anxious than she is letting on, which is why I’m so keen to push things along for her and get the treatment started as soon as possible. I guess I’m afraid of having a totally open conversation with her about our feelings because I don’t want her to see me break down. I want her to know this is a totally manageable situation and that we can make it through this. But thank you for your advice.
