very very newbie - Im good.. or am i?
so im new to a diagnosis of breast cancer- i am single with 2 children recently left home- Right from the get go 4 weeks ago i thought there were issues- with country living i have had bumps and thu...
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@maureenz sounds like you need a gatekeeper so that you can manage. The gatekeeper whether it be in person or a private facebook post (I think this is how @primek managed) will keep most informed but allow you to spend time in your own environment and deal indirectly with the well meaning and directly with those that you want to. Last thing I would want is someone wanting a feel, bad enough that all these specialists poke and prod! Mind you I'm used to that now and mindset is such wow aren't they thorough and thank goodness they are!
I prefer to have someone around me who doesn't say much rather than someone who is over the top giving advice about if you drink this tea or make this green muck everything will be fine. That is nice but I'm not on a crash diet! I'm on a life saving expedition. Trying to knock off this unexpected visitor called Breast Cancer before he decides to outstay his welcome! (note to self why did I refer to BC as male?)
In the fog of it all you will find yourself and the fighting you and you'll give it a good shake with a great team. You need to put faith in your medical team and worry less about family feelings. Give family and friends domestic tasks so they feel like they are helping, meals for the freezer, laundering (you won't be able to carry the weight of washing or hanging out for awhile), feeding animals, firewood et cetera They will be happy they are helping. I found Coles online shopping was great, had it delivered to hubby at work and he'd bring it home! I'm also fortunate that we are a team and he just took on the cooking et cetera and was always happy when a visitor had called by with Shepherds pie or soup or cake or something!
The emotional side is private and we are all here. There is always someone on the forum no matter what time of day or night that will give you a boost or an answer, we all get it and we don't judge, so vent away! As you settle into this site you will find lots of good discussion that may help you. If you're stuck @Jess_BCNA or @Cosette_BCNA will help you or point you in the right direction.
Take care
I prefer to have someone around me who doesn't say much rather than someone who is over the top giving advice about if you drink this tea or make this green muck everything will be fine. That is nice but I'm not on a crash diet! I'm on a life saving expedition. Trying to knock off this unexpected visitor called Breast Cancer before he decides to outstay his welcome! (note to self why did I refer to BC as male?)
In the fog of it all you will find yourself and the fighting you and you'll give it a good shake with a great team. You need to put faith in your medical team and worry less about family feelings. Give family and friends domestic tasks so they feel like they are helping, meals for the freezer, laundering (you won't be able to carry the weight of washing or hanging out for awhile), feeding animals, firewood et cetera They will be happy they are helping. I found Coles online shopping was great, had it delivered to hubby at work and he'd bring it home! I'm also fortunate that we are a team and he just took on the cooking et cetera and was always happy when a visitor had called by with Shepherds pie or soup or cake or something!
The emotional side is private and we are all here. There is always someone on the forum no matter what time of day or night that will give you a boost or an answer, we all get it and we don't judge, so vent away! As you settle into this site you will find lots of good discussion that may help you. If you're stuck @Jess_BCNA or @Cosette_BCNA will help you or point you in the right direction.
Take care