Today was D Day
Hey all, So today I have gotten from my GP a preliminary result of stage 2 IDC involving the lymph nodes. HER negative and hormone receptor positive. Still need to do more tests to see if it’s spre...
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@cranky_granny yes I agree getting out is a good thing for wellbeing. I plan on waiting until my staging scans are sorted and I have final results and a plan before I have to go to sorting the financial stuff which is very daunting.
Plan is to freeze the home loan and check if I need to be in contract to start the income protection from super. I’m 41 so still have a good 20 years of teaching left in me yet. I also have some savings which I will likely have to burn through before I can claim any other Centrelink benefits.
While I don’t regret becoming a single parent, it is times like these I do envy those who have someone else who can take the financial strain so I could focus on treatment but that’s not how it all worked out I suppose 🤷🏼♀️
@arpie yes he will definitely be on the low end (tier 1 to my tier 7) of income, but his inexperience with running a classroom in a complex school is not going to help him in the long run and may even burn him out, as the types of schools I work in are not for the faint hearted and it is a completely different role compared to his current one (he is a SSO currently).
And unfortunately the department for education already knows. Every year staff across the state fill out a wellbeing survey and ours was so low they sent people from the department to talk to teacher about why. Yet the only thing that came from that was passive aggressive emails telling us that change is hard and we need to learn to be more adaptable and find our “why” (which makes most teachers either roll their eyes or gag, except for the newbies who are all bright and shiny and don’t know the game or the rules yet). The exodus has continued. 4 other teachers were told on Friday. 3 more have been announced as getting jobs elsewhere.
@arpie yes he will definitely be on the low end (tier 1 to my tier 7) of income, but his inexperience with running a classroom in a complex school is not going to help him in the long run and may even burn him out, as the types of schools I work in are not for the faint hearted and it is a completely different role compared to his current one (he is a SSO currently).
And unfortunately the department for education already knows. Every year staff across the state fill out a wellbeing survey and ours was so low they sent people from the department to talk to teacher about why. Yet the only thing that came from that was passive aggressive emails telling us that change is hard and we need to learn to be more adaptable and find our “why” (which makes most teachers either roll their eyes or gag, except for the newbies who are all bright and shiny and don’t know the game or the rules yet). The exodus has continued. 4 other teachers were told on Friday. 3 more have been announced as getting jobs elsewhere.
But, on a brighter and slightly anxiety inducing note, I took the day off yesterday to recalibrate my brain- and heard back from the breast care nurse! She had definitely gone in to bat for me and as it is currently 4:15am I can now say I have staging scans tomorrow. I assume this is the standard set of scans- CT contrast of head, chest, abdomen and pelvis followed by whole body bone scan?
Then on Monday I will see the breast surgeon at a different hospital linked within the network, and my medical team will have their meeting on Tuesday- after which time I will have a plan moving forward.
It kind of feels like the time since diagnosis has been like the beginning of a roller coaster ride- clicking slowly up to the first crest which now I am getting there seems super high up and I know once I go over that edge everything will be fast and moving every which way very quickly.
I wouldn’t say I’m feeling scared, but it’s feeling more real now the next step, more information, more decisions and plans are about to be made. Definitely anxiety inducing…
I wouldn’t say I’m feeling scared, but it’s feeling more real now the next step, more information, more decisions and plans are about to be made. Definitely anxiety inducing…