This tuff cookie is crumbling
Hi I am 46 and diagnosed 2 weeks ago with invasive ductal carsonoma and DCIS on a routine mammogram. Met my surgeon on Friday and having surgery this Wednesday. He offered me a mastectomy but said I...
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Ah man @Melc503 - I HEAR you loud and clear - I am the absolute control freak! I was diagnosed in January with bilateral invasive lobular carcinoma and knew from the start it would be a double mastectomy for me - the first thing I said to my surgeon was 'well, actually if it's all the same for you, I'd like to wait until April for my surgery because that fits into my lifestyle a lot better' - LOL - and at the end of the day, he was fine with it! The fact that I was afforded the opportunity to have the surgery when I wanted to, made ALL the difference to my emotional state.
Letting people in is a major issue for me too! I decided right from the beginning to control the dialogue (there's that control word again!) and made sure that everyone understood that I wasn't interested in any doom and gloom - only Team Chirpy members were welcome. I'm very open about talking to people about my treatment (chemo now then radiation to follow) but make it clear that I'm doing fine and don't need help. Thankfully I'm tolerating the chemo extremely well and have been able to continue with work and life as normal - so I really don't need any more help than from my husband and kids in their 20s.
But there are definitely those incredible well meaning friends who text me to wish me well before each treatment and it still irks me! I'm being extremely well behaved because I know that they simply love me and they all come from a good place with a heart of gold - it's just that I'm such a private person that I can't get used to the fact that people know about my medical life all of a sudden! Drives me bananas!
You've definitely come to the right place - there's always someone on here day and night to offer advice or just lend an ear and the guys above have already given you so much gold. Take one step at a time - you've absolutely got this!
xxxxx
Letting people in is a major issue for me too! I decided right from the beginning to control the dialogue (there's that control word again!) and made sure that everyone understood that I wasn't interested in any doom and gloom - only Team Chirpy members were welcome. I'm very open about talking to people about my treatment (chemo now then radiation to follow) but make it clear that I'm doing fine and don't need help. Thankfully I'm tolerating the chemo extremely well and have been able to continue with work and life as normal - so I really don't need any more help than from my husband and kids in their 20s.
But there are definitely those incredible well meaning friends who text me to wish me well before each treatment and it still irks me! I'm being extremely well behaved because I know that they simply love me and they all come from a good place with a heart of gold - it's just that I'm such a private person that I can't get used to the fact that people know about my medical life all of a sudden! Drives me bananas!
You've definitely come to the right place - there's always someone on here day and night to offer advice or just lend an ear and the guys above have already given you so much gold. Take one step at a time - you've absolutely got this!
xxxxx