This tuff cookie is crumbling

Melc I had to nominate a 'gate keeper' during the initial diagnosis and treatment because I found the well wishing and many offers for help too invasive. I decided that I would only inform friends and family when I had definite outcomes - I stopped telling anyone about appointments and treatments. I just could not cope with friends and relatives telling me they were upset because I hadn't phoned them. When I found myself making a list of people I had to contact I realised that I was meeting the need of others - hello?! Over the years (7years of ongoing treatment and tests) I have learned to ask for help when I feel the need and at times I find the actual help a bit smothering. I have had some very helpful discussions with the Breast Nurse at the hospital and Cancer Council counsellors. There is no way but your way and tears are healing, they help the body relax. What practical and loving responses you have received.  XXXXXBeryl