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Hi all, I am just starting on my journey with breast cancer.  Just had surgery on Friday (lumpectomy and sentinel nodes) and home the next day.  A little bit sore, but not too bad.  Have to learn to take things easy which I am finding really difficult to do.

It's very hard to stop and slow down after working full time for the last umpteen years, looking after a teenage son and just living life.  Will just have to learn and look after me.  As I have heard so many times "It's all about me"!!!!

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  • Hey Linda, just wanted to say welcome to the online network, and thanks for sharing your experiences. It's amazing how many similarities there are amongst everyone posting here, no matter how different the diagnosis or personal circumstances. Jump in anytime you feel like contributing -- it's all good.:)

    I think you're right about taking things at your own pace and recharging when you need to, and good luck with the check and bone scan.  Let us know how you go.

    Di

  • Thank you all for the words of encouragement and support.  It still all feels a little surreal at the moment but I am sure I will have a reality slap in the face soon.

    I have received the "My journey  kit" from bcna and have found it really useful so far, particularly the diary.  It's quite overwhelming having to deal with so many medical appointments particularly when I have rarely had a sick day in my life.

    Nea - yes it is hard work staying strong for friends and relatives.  I have struggled with lack of energy as well, but  I have decided that if I am tired then I will just go and have a rest and re-charge the batteries.  Hopefully your friends and relatives will understand that you are not quite operating at full speed and respect your need to rest and recuperate.

    I am back to hospital tomorrow for a wound check and a bone scan so lots more hurry up and wait!!!

    Thank you for taking the time to read my post.  Linda

     

     

  • Hi Jo, Thanks for your comments.  Never thought I'd be doing this at 5am in the morning ... and it's not even daylight!!!  One of the challenges of these early days is dealing with (or not dealing with) the responses from family and friends.  A friend came to visit over the weekend and it was lovely but she stayed too long - gotta learn to say 'go home' in a nice way!  And a sibling visited last night who looked so concerned when he saw me.  It's hard dealing with those things - I'm usually the one making others feel comfortable, now I don't have the energy to do so for extended periods.  It seems I've gotta find a new way of being me, being true to myself without sacrificing myself.  Part of the new 'normal' I've heard about, I suppose.  And, apart from physical pain brought on by the surgery, I just feel so good!  Doesn't make any damn sense!!! Nea

  • Hi Newbie I had similar surgery to yours back in May, followed by 4 sessions of chemo and 6 weeks radiotherapy. I didn't seem to have too many terrible side effects from treatment at the time and I just kept soldiering on, going to work most days and trying to carry on with life as before. Big mistake!!! After my husband had to rush me up to casualty one weekend I had major meltdown, lots of tears and realization that it was okay not to try to be superwoman - my life is not the same as it was before and I needed to slow down, look after myself, take time off work, share how I was feeling with my husband and my friends, cry lots, take time to heal physically and emotionally, feel scared sometimes. -one of the things I've learnt through my journey so far is what's important in my life is not work but the people I love and my relationships with them. Sorry if this is a bit of a ramble - I guess I just wanted to share my experience because when I read your post I think I saw a bit of how I was 6months ago. Good luck with your journey. Marian
  • Hi Nea,

    Your emotions are going to go on a roller coaster ride and  this is a time for you to step back and let  others give you some of those comforts of life us women need.  You don't need to be strong you just need to remain  positive and always remember that the good thing about your cancers is they have found it and removed it.  

    You will become really anxious now with the waiting for results and treatments but feel free to come on here and talk to the wonderful ladies that all have been through the same feelings.  It helped me for weeks to spend my time on this site. Good luck with your treatment plan ,

    cheers Jo xx