So out of control

@Kim22 I am so sorry to hear of your story this far, but let me tell you, you absolutely are not alone and everything you described is everything we here have all faced or are going through. My first diagnosis was 2011 in which I did radiotherapy and tamoxifen for 4yrs but worked through and fell apart at the end and had 2 weeks off at the Radiologists insistence as Im also a single parent. I had very little support it was hard. I then had a recurrence in 2015 in which I did Chemo and Im imagining because you are Her2+ you'll need chemo and then Herceptin. It really sounds like your Team has their finger on the pulse. Family and friends are wonderful but they don't "GET IT" the way we all do, because we too are traveling this path with you. I am DISGUSTED in your BOSS! I learnt a valuable lesson in 2015 because I was so ill through chemo I couldnt work for 3 months and I work in Education, there was nothing I could do. I learnt that work wasn't important that I was in the end, so hard for me to let go of that...the other thing too like you I am THE GO TO PERSON for everyone...but nobody has ever been that for me and so I found myself in an unfamiliar territory one that caused alot of frustration, and heartache...BUt KIm I learnt the most valuable thing of all through all of it as I had little support and still raising my 2 children who thankfully my baby is now VCE, that I now PUT ME above everything and everyone, I became important. In terms of work, check with your superannuation as I had one with income protection built in thank goodness, mind you it came a year later but I am now covered til Jan 2018, but I work 3 days. Unfortunately in 3 weeks Im having a mastectomy/diep flap reconstruction but I have NO INTENTION of running back to work. It is so much to take in and so overwhelming!! and the only way I got through was to bring it back to the moment. One thing and and one step at a time, small steps as you find your way through this beginning process. We have a wealth of information and experience here to help you, and even if you want to vent!!! My God!!! have I the past week, coming to terms with preventative surgery!! Uuuugh!!! and its hard to consider yourself lucky because I believe for every single one of us, what we are personally going through is relative. Sending a huge Hug, big breath!! one step at a time! Melinda xo