Hi @Melc503,
I felt the same way. That's the impression my first oncologist gave me when I enquired about the cold cap. She had just rattled off what felt like a hundred possible side effects and I was worried about my hair. She said "I think your hair would be the least of your concerns when you are fighting caner" All well and good I guess, when its not your boobs or your hair and your just sitting there telling person after person the same thing.
Is it really vanity though? Well somewhat, but the thing I really did want was normal. I knew that it would give me strength, Even if I felt trashy on the inside at least I could look normal to the outside world. I did everything possible the whole way through to keep a sense of normality. So much happens and changes through this so any shred of the usual is valuable.
Not sure whether or not the cold cap helped but I never lost all of my eyebrows and there were enough lashes left that it was hardly noticeable with mascara on.
Let me know if you want any help.
Cheers
xoxoxoxo