You need to see your GP to get the referral. He or she should be able to refer you to someone they think you'll be comfortable working with. You have a choice to go public or private.
It's such a bewildering maze when we're first diagnosed, a vertical learning curve that you have to negotiate with unprecedented levels of fear. I promise you it gets better. You are in the worst bit right now. Waiting is the absolute pits.
All things being equal you should be introduced to your BreastCare nurse soon, and she'll be a great resource for you. Until then, you can always ring the helpline here 1800 500 258. I cannot recommend talking to the BCNA helpline enough. They hold your hand through the phone!
I'm sorry that you're here Mary, but now that you are, I hope you find this site as supportive, informative and as helpful as I have. I was diagnosed last December, have four kids and a dreadful family history. I didn't feel sick, it was a routine mammogram that found my cancer. Take deep breaths, try to stay in the moment (easier said than done I know but there's no point crossing bridges you may never come to!) and always know you can come here to vent, rant and ask any and all the questions. Hang in there. K xox