Hi I am 38 with 2 young boys my youngest was 17mths when I had my double mastectomy. I had zero pain after explained by the fact when they remove the breasts they also remove all the nerves in the breast tissue so you have no feeling. I had some nerve pain down my left arm because I had to have axillary clearance but all very manageable. Was only on panadol day 2 after surgery and was giving cuddles aswell didn't have much choice poor Rory didn't understand what was happening. It's normal to be scared but you will be fine. Haven't even started thinking about recon yet. I face this journey 1 step at a time so for me was surgery, then treatment (chemo done and just about to start rads), then recovery and sometime in the future recon. Want my body to be back to its best before I will even contemplate recon. Good luck xx