Preparation

Hi Kay, welcome to the forum. I'm sorry you're here, but I hope you find it as helpful as I have.

Firstly, there are no pathetic questions! And hardly any that haven't been asked before, including yours.

You are experiencing peak loss of control. It's a runaway train at the start and it's nice to do a bit of prep to give you a sense of control. Sure, it's an illusion but hey, it helps!

The most important thing you can do to reduce side effects is exercise. So whatever you do, keep doing it every day to help build up your strength. I did a lot of brisk walking in the two weeks I had before chemo started.

Stock the freezer with nutritious food, small portions. Get some fresh pineapple, cut it up and freeze it in small serves. There's a special enzyme in it that helps it to cut through chemo mouth. My GP put me onto that and I practically lived on it for the last two infusions. Get some Fruit Tingles in the pantry. Brilliant when your tastebuds are shot.

By all means get the house cleaned or do it yourself if it will mske you feel better!

If you don't already have Netflux or Stan now might be a good time to sign up for them. A good binge watch can get you through a lotvofchours on the sofa or in bed!

Get on some lip balm, hand cream and moisturiser. Chemo is very drying.

Chemo can give you the runs or shut you down completely. You'll know which after your first cycle. However you don't want to be caught short so stock up with some Coloxyl or Movicol, and with medication for the opposite.

I'm sure others will be along soon with other ideas.

Come on here for a chat, to vent, to rage, and ask as many questions as you want. We're here for you because we've all been there and get it. Big hug, K xox

It’s all a bit of a blur at first isn’t it? Sorry you have to be here but it’s a good place to ask questions and get some honest and caring answers. Do what you feel you most want -if that’s to sit back, do very little, let the spinning slow down, then do that. If cleaning makes you feel more in control, go for it. Until you start chemo, it’s extremely hard to know how you will react. Some people get knocked sideways, some find it not too bad, most are somewhere in the middle, with good and bad days. It’s daunting at first but chemo doesn’t go on for ever. It’s hard not to try to plan ahead but for the first few weeks, step by step makes a lot of sense. After a while you will know much better how you feel (physically and emotionally) and will make better decisions about what’s important to you. And there are never any pathetic questions! We’ve all been there, worrying about little things because we can’t quite get our heads around that one BIG thing. Ask away, accept help when offered, one step, then the next one. Best wishes.

Thank you most sincerely. I got a new kitchen installed during the school holidays and have not unpacked etc. so I think I need to get all those things done this weekend (with help from some friends) to reduce the dust and clutter. Step 1.  Regards

You really won't know how you're going to travel until you've started - once you've had the first one, you'll have a better idea of how it's going to affect you and the pattern of it.  By all means, clean your house if that's what you want to do as you may not feel up to it during chemo but I guess it depends how much you care about things being spotless.  Personally, if I could afford a cleaner, I'd have one :-) .  If friends ask how they can help, then it's always good to have specifics so some help with cleaning might be one if you think they'd be up for it.  You may want to investigate online grocery shopping if you don't already do so but then again, getting out might be what you want to do.  As for what to buy beforehand - as @kmakm says, you may not need everything but it's good to have on hand if you do.  Of this list, the only thing I didn't use was the Movicol.

Biotene mouthwash
Really soft toothbrush (toddlers)
Coloxyl with senna
Movicol
Gastrostop
Toilet wipes (it can get a bit tender)
Disinfectant wipes (good if you're concerned about cleanliness out in the world)
Hand wipes 
Hand sanitiser
Sorbolene (chemo can make your skin dry)
Decent thermometer

If you're having cold caps, get some baby shampoo and a wide toothed comb.  If you're not, you don't need to rush out and spend a fortune on a wig.  See if there's anywhere you can hire one if that's what you want to do.  And check out op shops for nice scarves - there's lots of YouTube demos of how to tie them.

I had Crown Mints instead of Fruit Tingles - same purpose.  I also found that I struggled to drink flat water so maybe have some sparkling on hand.  There is a discussion on here somewhere about best meals during chemo.  The one thing I found was that what worked during one part of chemo, didn't do it for me later so just be aware of not preparing too much.

Have you got someone to take you to and from the chemo treatments?  It's a bore but at least for the first one, you shouldn't rely on being able to drive home.  I would be asleep by halfway home - not sure if it was the chemo, the other drugs given, or the after-effects of anxiety.  Don't worry - anxiety is normal but generally not needed.

Make sure that you know who to ring if the meds they send you home with don't work well enough.  I went through a couple of days of sheer hell because I didn't know any better and it was the weekend.  A phone call on Monday sorted out a script faxed to my local pharmacy and all good.  For most of us, there's no need to suffer badly but you do need to know what to do about it, particularly given you're on you own.

Even if you're not a daytime telly-watcher, you may find yourself bingeing on it so iview or Netflix is a good investment.

You don't say where you are, but you may be able to access an Encore class.  They usually start at the beginning of term but you will need your doctors written okay.  Other than that, see if your oncology clinic has any exercise classes they offer or refer to.  It's important to keep up the exercise as best you can - it helps get the chemo through your system, protects your heart during it, and aids to recovery afterwards.  But don't expect to be able to run marathons.  Immediately after each treatment, walking to the letterbox might be all you can manage and that's okay.  If you include the region where you live on your profile, other members may be able to steer you to local classes.

Just remember - while this is not fun, it is doable.  You will get through it.

kmakum, Thank you for the advice. Shopping I will go today after today's round of blood test, scan, education program - well perhaps on the weekend. 

You'll be right. It's grotty but it's doable. Big hug, K xox

Sister, thank you so very very much for all of this information. My shopping list is quite long now but I can do that tomorrow. I will check out exercise classes (not that I do exercise) because I know that will be really important. Still in the phase of telling friends, then colleagues but I'll leave telling students to someone else because this is not as easy as it sounds to do. 

I found it quite difficult keeping everyone updated - sometimes you don't want every conversation to be about cancer.  With hubby's help, I set up a blog and gave family, friends and colleagues the address so that they could see what was going on.  It also often helped with my mental state to write things down and has turned out to be a great journal of a time that I find hard to pin down.

The journal (that no-one has read except me) was a really good activity for me too. It was one way to record my progress but also allowed some feelings and thoughts to air productively, without scaring anyone else! 

Is the journal in the My Journey Kit,that sounds just perfect for me. I need to get a specific diary to record everything down so I can keep track of what is happening.