Hi @Chipo
It is a tough question and Im sure you've heard the old thing of everyone is different but so are peoples treatment regimes, I went in with an amazing attitude, planned my next 6 months work wise but none of it for me was as the Oncologist said it would be. I was unlucky absolutely and turned out drug sensitive which I never really knew, so this was difficult.
Whilst I was very ill on Chemo...I can't say anything positive about that LOL BUT there were many other positives to come out of it. It was easier to get ready bald and toss on my wig which was brilliant!!! I learnt that when I lost my eyelashes if I popped eye liner across the top of the lid you actually couldnt tell you didnt have any LOL. I learnt to put ME FIRST, work is work even if youre passionate about it, so I will never kill myself over it ever again and don't :) life is balance. My life is testament to what a strong loving woman I am, I have nothing to prove to work or anyone. My kids are my world, my partner who stayed when many wouldnt is awesome. I take joy in the smallest moments now because thats what lifes about...not how much money you have or material things...Ive never cared for those things.
From bad things come good...you will lose friendships but you will gain some REAL friends in an unexpected circumstance. So many blessings on a different level I guess....and this path is NOT about being POSITIVE. I've always been relatively...but like a Psych at a rehab I did post treatment said to the Group...how youve always dealt with things in your life is who you are and you will deal with this...being positive or having bad days makes no difference whats paramount is how YOU are as a person and being true to how you deal with things...and thats perfect for you!
Oh yeah there are threads on cold caps here, some ladies are successful though my Oncologist didnt recommend it for a few reasons, one was as @zoffiel said to do with the blood flow to the scalp and being on FEC he said it will not be successful. I had friends who did it, but didnt like it and still lost alot of hair anyway. For me I figured Id sooner have control and lost it all than try and manage a half head on top of what youre already going through.
Even with all the support in the world, its an isolating time in moments but thats when you really get to know yourself too I found...big hugs Melinda xo
