Hi @JoB, Welcome to a forum of very loving & caring people just like you! I was diagnosed early December & had my operation 4 days before Christmas so I too am new to this forum. I came into this very naive but someone on this website told me that you learn very quickly & you do. Ask us any questions as there will be someone who can help you. Timing was not on your side but then it never is with cancer. It will be tough for you with family in the UK but you have a special family here with all of us. Good luck & one thing I have learnt very quickly is that there are so many different stages & courses with this disease so don't panic about something that may never happen or you may never even have to deal with. There are many roads but you may only need to travel down a few. Just focus on what you know instead of what may never happen. I started panicking about chemo, mastectomy & many other things but I was a lucky one & never had to go down those paths. Keep breathing, stay positive & you will find much strength from the ladies here, the breast care nurses & hospital staff. It is quite overwhelming how much support you will get. Lots of love. xxxx