Sounds like you are doing the best you can with what you have been dealt with-like us all. BC caught me totally by surprise. My grandmother died of BC but other than that no significant history. I lost my father to bowel cancer at 51 so maybe there is a link there. None of it really matters I guess now that I am 'in' the situation. I also had lots of plans just before being diagnosed-house renos, travelling. The surgeon told me it would be a year out of normal life. Diagnosed late July and then surgery, chemo and radiation (just started). One thing that is now really annoying me is no eyelashes or eyebrows. I think I would manage bald/semi bald better if I had eyelashes and eyebrows! Very impatient to have some hair, or at least hair that looks like real hair. Right now I have this soft white fuzz, thicker on the sides and thin on top. I guess I could aim for a comb over?! Sometimes I think I shouldn't complain and then I think check in with reality and put it into context. Yes get the best fake boobs you can! My next step is genetic counselling to assist me in making that decision.
Take care..