Gosh - shame that you weren't advised of the dense breast tissue & need for an ultrasound! Had you had many previous mammograms before this one, that found the lumps? Yes, most of us are now very vocal about telling everyone to get checked at 40+ or as soon as a lump or different shape/pain etc is spotted - including male breast cancer as well - telling the boys to be vigilant too!
The waiting really sucks - waiting for the scans, for the results, waiting to see the surgeon etc ..... try & keep as busy as you can as it keeps your mind busy as well (our minds can go ballistic with all this overload of information & general fear ....) I went fishing most days in between initial detection & the scans, the between the scans & the results - I was out communing with nature - it worked for me.
We have some WONDERFUL members in WA @Hils .... 2 that spring to mind are @JJ70 who is a fantastic lobbyist for ALL things BC and has a Facebook page called Can do at 40
https://www.facebook.com/Can40Do45/ and also @"Annie C" from up in the Kimberley region who goes to Perth for her checkups - and is a lovely lady - we met up in Darwin a few months ago & had a hoot together with her hubby Ian.
LOL Never a dull moment with my hubby - he left his 'jigsaw puzzle light' on all night last night & also checked something in the back yard before going back to bed & then left the back door wide open!
I am lobular as well, which is considered one of the trickier ones to find, even if you don't have dense breast tissue as it is hidden in amongst the 'grapes' that are the lobules behind the nipple! I was lucky to just have a lumpectomy, radiation and hormone tablets (and dodged the chemo bullet.) Some people don't have side effects from the hormone meds - so fingers crossed you will be one of them!! I was post menopausal, so was already 'depleted' of many hormones! LOL
It may surprise you - depending on the level of surgery that you will require - that it doesn't knock you around as much as you 'think' it will. I know I was! I even floated thru 4 weeks of radiation quite well (except for hubby falling off his bike & breaking a couple of ribs & HIM becoming the patient instead of me! LOL)
Good on you for getting back to your craft group & finding some immediate support amongst it's members. You'll be able to raise many questions & issues with them (and us) and also get tips - that will help smooth out the bumpy road. I was the same with my uke group - I dreaded telling them, as I run the group - and like you - about 6 said 'Me Too!' They've become my greatest supporters.
I hope to get my 2 year results today ...... all the best with your hubby - I hope he gets the call soon & that his 2nd transplant 'takes better' than the first one xxx I have a buddy in Tassie who had a transplant last year & he has a new lease of life - and another in NSW who's about to start dialysis.
take care, all the best xx
