Thanks to everyone for their lovely comments. It's nice to know that there are like minded people on this site that actually understand what we are going through. My family are all in NZ but my husbands family lives close by and they have been very supportive but don't really understand the emotions I am feeling. Thanks primek for your website recommendations. I was actually looking at the Hat House website last night thinking I could find some nice things there. I have my first appointment with my oncologist on Wed 5th Oct so I will know more about my treatment after that and can ask more questions. I think they have breast care nurses there too so hopefully they will be able to help me along the way.