@kmakm thank you. I am so glad I found this site. The support is amazing and makes a big difference. This BC shiz is indeed hard.
I saw a breast surgeon in my 30's due to my family history, he recommended yearly mri and US. I did one then busy with med school, single parent at the time. then new relationship pregnancy, never went back. Now here I am and of course another stat in the family in my 40's so I know that hugely increases the risk for my girls which is also a confronting part of the diagnosis.
So I get heartache of knowing your loved ones are also at risk, but having a child ask that question must be gut wrenching, especially when you are going through it yourself.
I also have 2 step kids, they have cerebral palsy and intellectual disability. apparently the didn't really ask any questions when their mother died. however at the beginning of last year my youngest spent several days in hospital with gastro. Ryan asked his dad if she was going to die, I guess that was what his experience was when people went to hospital