@Sabze I was furious for three weeks, and then started crying. Could have won a medal crying for Australia. I cried everywhere, at anytime of the day, but not in front of the kids. Camo crying in the shower every. single. night. for a month. It petered out eventually as chemo got underway. The first counsellor I saw (two weeks after I was diagnosed) said I had to lean into the pain. I thought she was nuts, but now I know what she meant. It was grief, those tears had to come out to process the pain.
As my husband's grandmother used to say "Better out than your elbow". Don't ask me what it means, I have no idea!
Hang in there, K xox