Welcome to the network - sorry you have to be here, but I hope you will find it helpful. The shock is considerable. Unfortunately you will then have to make some decisions while that shock is still very much with you. It will be a little easier once you know details of your diagnosis and also what your surgeon recommends - cancer is very very variable, and what is recommended will depend on many things. Naturally your daughter is going to be very much in your mind, but you may also want to consider the following:
Your surgeon will recommend first of all the things best suited to reduce your risk of spread or recurrence, which is what we all want. You don't have to make decisions about reconstruction immediately - you can of course, but many women don't. Depending on your plan, you may have to factor surgery, possibly chemo, possibly radiation. These all take time - to have and to recover.
It's not just your body that needs time to recover - so do your emotions. We all recognise that thought - it could never happen to me. Part of recovery (and lots of us do recover!) is accepting a new reality - that stuff happens for no particular reason - and not letting that fear rule our lives. Cancer can be hard going - but it can also be empowering in a weird way.
You will need a team - your surgeon, your oncologist and you are in this together - so talk as much as you can. Ask questions. Ask them, ask people here! Trust with your medical team is essential. Don't talk to Dr Google - cancer is confusing enough, and that quasi medico will do your head in!!
I am marking 5 years after diagnosis, with so far no evidence of disease - there does come a time when it all seems a long time ago. Very best wishes.
