Just been diagnosed - scared..
You hear of this daily, but when it hits home, my gosh, your whole world feels dark! I have just been diagnosed with breast cancer and am shocked scared angry. I feel violated. Have lots of support ...
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Dear BlackWidow
Sorry, I don't know much about your particular circumstances other than that you were part of a support group. Are they able to help you at all? The one person we can't afford to hate is ourselves. Get angry about cancer, about procedures, about medication but not yourself. Your scar is not all you are, it's probably only a very small part of you. I have a big scar, no reconstruction, my husband doesn't care about it because it's not me. Warriors carry their battle scars with pride, and I feel a bit the same way. I have occasional times when I feel less than happy about the lost/malfunctioning bits of me - my irregular heartbeat, lymphoedemic arm, dodgy feet. Then I remember what I have and can do. I had never been in hospital before cancer ( except for a baby) and the change can be very disconcerting. But I would not be dead for quids. A great deal of good stuff has happened in the past 5 years. Sometimes we need more than a support group to see past the bad stuff - I daw a counsellor for a little while and the benefits have been lasting. The mind gets clobbered by this stuff too and we all need to remember that. Take care.
Sorry, I don't know much about your particular circumstances other than that you were part of a support group. Are they able to help you at all? The one person we can't afford to hate is ourselves. Get angry about cancer, about procedures, about medication but not yourself. Your scar is not all you are, it's probably only a very small part of you. I have a big scar, no reconstruction, my husband doesn't care about it because it's not me. Warriors carry their battle scars with pride, and I feel a bit the same way. I have occasional times when I feel less than happy about the lost/malfunctioning bits of me - my irregular heartbeat, lymphoedemic arm, dodgy feet. Then I remember what I have and can do. I had never been in hospital before cancer ( except for a baby) and the change can be very disconcerting. But I would not be dead for quids. A great deal of good stuff has happened in the past 5 years. Sometimes we need more than a support group to see past the bad stuff - I daw a counsellor for a little while and the benefits have been lasting. The mind gets clobbered by this stuff too and we all need to remember that. Take care.