I have just been diagnosed

You are NOT putting anyone through anything, you did NOT ask for this, you do NOT want this, this is happeneing to yuo, you are dealing with it and they will too.

You are not selfish, but you will learn that you have to be a little selfish during your journey to get what you need and to recover. It is HARD, but you need to learn to say - No sorry can't do that , or I am going to go and have a nap - look after yourselves until I am back up and about, or no I can't deal with that at the moment, I have to much else on my plate or my head isn't in the right place to do that.

Never appologise for what you need.

It is 100% normal to go from happy to sad to angry etc, you will infact go through all the stages of denial during your journey - from denial - no I don't have this bloody disease, to acceptance - Ok I have this what is next.

Don't be afraid to cry the worst thing you can do for your mental health is to bottle it all up, see a cancer councellour if you need to, that is what they are there for (same goes for partner and his kids), his kids if between 12 and 24 can also join Canteen to get help and fun through them (they are for kids of parents with cancer or who's parent(s) have passed away from cancer (and they qualify for both of those)..

Make sure you take Me time to cope with what is going on - scream, yell, cry, laugh what ever you need to do in the moment, and if it means yelling at 60 yr old men who are tailgating you, then go for it.