"I don't have time for BC"

Hi @Flips Welcome to the group - we're here for when you need to cry, rage, laugh or ask for advice.  Getting diagnosed is a shocker, isn't it?  I think that much of the early weeks, I was in a half-state of reality.  As many of the women here have said, I too was independent - the one who did the organising for the rest of the family (any anyone else who needed it).  I was always being told that I was a whirlwind at work - things would be done before my colleagues and managers got around to it.  Now, my life is on hold for the immediate future but with a purpose goal of a healthy survivorship. You can see my bio by clicking on my name.  I can't control what is in my future but I can try to do the best I can to make it a positive one.  Re: your boyfriend - it's a big ask of anyone to be the partner of someone going through bc treatment as it is so all-consuming, but personally, I'd let that one develop or not as it needs to, as you would with any life crisis.
And the biggest piece of advice - one step at a time.