Hello Blackduck,
What an absolute horrible situation. I'm one of the 6%. I remember saying to someone "the good news is, it's a new primary cancer". they looked perplexed and said, "I've never hear anyone before say a primary cancer was good news". It's attitude, and experience that get you through. You know what you're in for this time, sort of. I had a lumpectomy 23 December 2013, with an invasive triple negative. Then, October 2016 I found a new mass on the other side. It was lobular, and all over the place, so it was hard for me to detect. This one had receptors, so it's a different beast. Had a mastectomy on the left, but they didn't take the right one at the time, and that's what I'm lining up for now. I've had 3 rounds of FEC and 9 rounds of Docetaxel/Cycophosphlamide in total, also total of 4 surgeries and 55 radio sessions, I think I would glow now under UV lights. For me, and I do have an allergic reaction for Doce, I did find the chemo tougher second time around, as I think I hadn't totally recovered from last time, I meant, let's face it, our bodies are never really the same again.. What I found harder the second time was there wasn't so much support, people are kind of tired of it, they remember you coped last time, and they are not as shocked. On the flip side though, I wasn't as worried this time. Yes, there are sleepless nights again, but it's a more familiar foe. Regarding what type of surgery, for me, 2 in 3 years is enough, I want them both off, they feel like ticking time bombs. I'm Bracca negative, but my family history is very, very strong. Between Mum, my sister and myself, we've had 5 cancers in 5 years. That's enough, all the breast are going. I felt huge relief after my first mastectomy. I really did feel all the cancer had gone. I'm very keen to have the second (hopefully not during Christmas this time, anyway, it's mum's turn again), just hoping I have some reconstruction options.
Best wishes through all this rubbish.