@Felicia29 That is a very difficult situation. So difficult for him to be supportive the way you need because it might mean acknowledging that he has the same or similar needs. I feel so sorry for him, but also annoyed! Some men can be so frustrating with their refusal to engage with emotional hurt and healing. Really, women are almost always so much stronger in this area.
At this point I think you need to focus on yourself. Is there a local support group in your area that you can join? A lot of the hospitals run support groups, regular morning teas, that kind of thing. The Cancer Council can help with finding some near you. I ended up starting my own, and it's marvellous. We meet once a month but have a very active WhatsApp group.
Take care of yourself. At this time you are definitely the priority and being selfish is compulsory! K xox