Feeling Lost
Hi, I'm not sure how this network works yet so I'm hoping I can connect with some support, but really I want to let out what is inside. I therefore doubt this will make much sense. I went in for...
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@Felicia29 So glad that you feel you're making progress in getting support gathered around you. Guilt and self-blame have no place in our lives. They don't help us and don't change anything. We just need to focus on the present and the future and put ourselves first at this time.
You've had excellent advice from the other ladies on here.
I understand your desire to "put your affairs in order". I've done that - probably to extremes. My daughter can't believe I've done a slide show of photos for my "leaving drinks party" (it won't be a funeral!). But I want to save as much stress as possible for her and other people when the time comes, and I'm naturally super-organised. I told her she can add photos if she wants but not take any out! Like you, I've seen situations where people have made no plans (mostly as a JP) and it becomes a nightmare. And costly. I'm 20 months on from diagnosis and am feeling very positive about the future, but I need to have a plan.
Whatever your treatment path ends up being, I wish you all the best. Accept offers of help and be kind to yourself. Keep asking questions of your medical team until you understand and don't agree to anything you're unhappy about.
I found the counsellors at the Cancer Council to be a great support, too, when I needed to talk about tensions between my children just before my surgery last year.131120.
You've had excellent advice from the other ladies on here.
I understand your desire to "put your affairs in order". I've done that - probably to extremes. My daughter can't believe I've done a slide show of photos for my "leaving drinks party" (it won't be a funeral!). But I want to save as much stress as possible for her and other people when the time comes, and I'm naturally super-organised. I told her she can add photos if she wants but not take any out! Like you, I've seen situations where people have made no plans (mostly as a JP) and it becomes a nightmare. And costly. I'm 20 months on from diagnosis and am feeling very positive about the future, but I need to have a plan.
Whatever your treatment path ends up being, I wish you all the best. Accept offers of help and be kind to yourself. Keep asking questions of your medical team until you understand and don't agree to anything you're unhappy about.
I found the counsellors at the Cancer Council to be a great support, too, when I needed to talk about tensions between my children just before my surgery last year.131120.