Dealing with Christmas Day
Morning all With the usual large family lunch approaching , I’m kind of feeling like I’m going to be a freak show on Chrissy day. I clearly stand out with short grey hair now, so can’t fly under ...
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Hi @Caz1
Is christmas at your place or elsewhere? We had heaps of social functions going on in the 4 moths following my diagnosis. Milestone birthday parties, graduations, formals and of course xmas which was two weeks after my first chemo.
I have a large family as well, huge actually. There was a tinsel covered sign put on the door. It read "I am fine, no BC talk today pls. Merry xmas".
Problem solved at my place. For the most part my imediate family were really good. They knew my thing was normality so they didn't push.
Going elsewhere can be harder but a whole lot of fun. Dress to kill, wear the most outrageously gorgeous hat you can find and walk in with several bottles of wine under your arm. LOL. Tha'tll give them something to whisper about.
Of course there will be the ones who cannot help themselves and try to probe for information, then there will be ones who are scared of you and cancer and don't say anything.
The easiest thing to do I found was to answer the "How are you going" question with "I'm fine or really good", because that's what people want to hear and just say you'd rather enjoy xmas day than talk about cancer" Hopefully that puts an end to it.
All the best lovely. It may be a great day and you won't want to pull that card. Either way I hope you have an awesome time.
xoxoxo
Is christmas at your place or elsewhere? We had heaps of social functions going on in the 4 moths following my diagnosis. Milestone birthday parties, graduations, formals and of course xmas which was two weeks after my first chemo.
I have a large family as well, huge actually. There was a tinsel covered sign put on the door. It read "I am fine, no BC talk today pls. Merry xmas".
Problem solved at my place. For the most part my imediate family were really good. They knew my thing was normality so they didn't push.
Going elsewhere can be harder but a whole lot of fun. Dress to kill, wear the most outrageously gorgeous hat you can find and walk in with several bottles of wine under your arm. LOL. Tha'tll give them something to whisper about.
Of course there will be the ones who cannot help themselves and try to probe for information, then there will be ones who are scared of you and cancer and don't say anything.
The easiest thing to do I found was to answer the "How are you going" question with "I'm fine or really good", because that's what people want to hear and just say you'd rather enjoy xmas day than talk about cancer" Hopefully that puts an end to it.
All the best lovely. It may be a great day and you won't want to pull that card. Either way I hope you have an awesome time.
xoxoxo