@Eastmum I don't know if anyone's said this (it's 4am and I'm not sleeping but can't be stuffed going through the posts)... When you're ready for people to know you might find it's easier if you don't have to do the telling. I know that I just wanted to bunker down and not be always having to handle people's well-meaning questions. My husband told his family (my immediate family are all gone), friends and colleagues, I told 2 close, key friends and asked them to spread the word but tell people I didn't want calls all of the time asking about the cancer. I also told my boss and asked her to do the same. I used facebook messages to inform extended family as well as some friends who l don't see often. One of the best things I did was to set up a blog so that I could post updates about what was happening to me and how things were going. I made sure that the url for this was passed on to those who wanted to know. My husband set it up for me on wordpress while I was in hospital. This means that I can read people's comments and messages when I feel like doing it and I don't have to respond straight away, or at all, if I don't feel like it. And everyone feels they're in the loop - I think they also feel that they don't have to make that effort of ringing up and knowing what to say.
All the best with results for you and @arpie.
