Hey brave mumma, have you been told what your chemo is called? While they all have things in common, they do vary (as do our physical responses), and it can sometimes be helpful to have chemo specific advice here. There is no 'normal', we're all different depending on our diagnoses.
I had TC chemotherapy, which was four doses given at three weekly intervals. I am currently in hospital recovering from a bilateral mastectomy and reconstruction. Are you thinking about immediate reconstruction? You haven't mentioned radiation so I'm presuming you're not having it.
Anyway, I won't tell I found chemo to be pleasant, because it's not, but nor was it the end of the world. I have four kids. You will need as much help as you can lay your hands on so if people offer, accept! I was petrified before it started (had a full blown panic attack two nights before) but most side effects are manageable these days. Never hesitate to ask for stronger meds!
My order of treatment was dictated by my diagnosis variables, as yours will be I'm sure. Do you like and trust your medical team? Be guided by them, and your gut.
If pressed, and you do have a choice, I'd say chemo first then mastectomy. Chemo is a hard slog, but it is transitory. A mastectomy is forever. I would not like to be lying here processing the loss of my breasts whilst also contemplating starting chemotherapy.
All the very best. You can do this, you'll get through, keep your eyes on the prize. Big (though very gentle right now!) bear hug. K xox
