A new member and really wishing I wasn't

All I can say is that I'm a public patient and was in and out of hospital whilst having the AC chemotherapy (38 days in all over the twelve weeks) with neutropaenia (x3), anaemia, acute pancreatitis, (due to my preexisting autoimmune diseases reacting to the Neulasta, which was given for the aforementioned neutropaenia), terrible rash, spiking fevers and so on ad nauseum. On one of the admissions, the woman in the bed next to me was a private patient. One day she was talking (loudly) to her visitors, and rabbiting on about how she couldn't understand how people would say they couldn't afford private medical cover...she couldn't understand how they could do without it! Well...she lay in a bed identical to mine, and piddled in the same loo as me. The same nurses answered her bell (and no quicker than mine). She ate the same food and was given meds no different from mine. So big deal, she had her own doctor visit her, but how would one know which to choose, as you have mentioned? My oncologist is not what I would call "Warm and Fuzzy", but you know, I don't see her for a social visit, I see her for her (great) expertise. My surgeon, I have nicknamed "Tinkerbell" and she too, I would hazard a guess is on the Autism Spectrum Disorder chart...totally lacking in people skills. There too, I'm not wanting another friend, I see her for her skills with her scalpel, and these, I understand are really good. Look with an open mind at all your options and then put all your trust in your choice. Remember...how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. How do we all get through this awful business? One minute, one hour, one day. at a time. Virtual cyberhug coming your way (( )).