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Hi all I know this is a weird first post for “Newly Diagnosed”! but Im alone today, the day I got the call, and I literally just wanted to reach out to my sisters who know how I feel. It’s comforti...
Hi @Bean73. Welcome, and congratulations on forming cohesive sentences at this stage! You're already amazing.
I didn't tell anyone outside my household what was going on until after the pathology was back on my tumour, it had been removed, a sentinel node biopsy had been performed (to see if the cancer was in my lymph nodes or not) and I'd had a second operation to get clear margins. And then I sent my husband to tell my parents!
There's no right or wrong in the shitshow. You just do you, and block out anyone who has issue with that. People are going to say a lot of weird shit to you. Take what you like and ignore the rest.
The first big decision you'll make is whether you go public or private. BC treatment can be very expensive so think carefully. We all have different experiences of both systems; again, there's no right or wrong.
Signing up to BCNA's My Journey online tool is a good thing to do. Good info clearly expressed. Stay away from US forums, their healthcare system leads to some dreadful experiences. Anything fro. Macmillan in UK is good.
If no one offers one to you, ask about a breastcare nurse. They can be a huge ally and a fount of information, comfort and a conduit to your medical team.
There's a ton of information but that's probably enough for now! Take things one day at a time, put one foot in front of the other and you'll get through. This is the worst bit I promise. The biggest of hugs to you lovely, K xox
