I am not sure things come in threes - more like whole dozens sometimes, but very rarely one by one in a calm and orderly fashion so you can deal with them in the same way. Timing's all off, the law's an ass but I am glad you have some support even if it's sympathy and a shoulder, if not something a bit more practical. I am sure you do not wish to do this, but you may have to push some of those more passive supporters to do more. You will figure out what to do, and it may not be easy but staying in the situation you are n now doesn't sound viable either. We may not be able to do anything practical here, but we can sympathise too, feel for you and wish you all the strength in the world. And you can post what you like to help get things off your chest (no awful breast cancer pun intended!).