Why is it so hard?
Hello, I’m new to the network even though I’m well past finished with my treatment. I even have almost enough hair on my head to call it a bob, sort of. I finished the mastectomy/reconstruction/6 mont...
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Far out! I still miss our dogs (18 and 19 when they passed) and we haven't found the emotional strength to replace them yet! We do have a cat that thinks she is a pup and follows us everywhere and calls out like she has a broken tail if we get too far ahead of her - we live on acres and she loves it! Animals are so soothing - did anyone see the story of the Magpie called Penguin on Sixty Minutes last night?
As to the daily struggle, that's what this forum is about, we get it! Our dear friends and family assume that we are back to normal as our time between appointments lengthens. No, it just brings on scanxiety and everything else in between! Fatigue is real and hits us unexpectedly even though we maybe eating correctly, doing some exercise et cetera
It will get better as time goes on! Be kind to yourself, rest up where you need to, don't feel bad if you want to cop out on a coffee date or whatever - this is about you! I find now that family don't even ask how am I, do you have an upcoming appointment, as when they see me I look normal and I don't bring it up unless they do. Recently my baby sister was diagnosed with Cervical Cancer and hence the questions came and when I said that when I first met my Breast Surgeon, he said you will be my patient for the next 10 years, silence came! They hadn't realised the depth of it all. Feedback the next day from other sister confirmed this.
Whoops this is about you not me but you get the picture, we all feel altered and a little distant from our old lives!
Don't know where you are or if you are aware of the Otis Foundation - they offer free holidays for us, just need to get there and provide your own food.
https://www.bcna.org.au/services-and-support-groups/services/the-otis-foundation/
As to the daily struggle, that's what this forum is about, we get it! Our dear friends and family assume that we are back to normal as our time between appointments lengthens. No, it just brings on scanxiety and everything else in between! Fatigue is real and hits us unexpectedly even though we maybe eating correctly, doing some exercise et cetera
It will get better as time goes on! Be kind to yourself, rest up where you need to, don't feel bad if you want to cop out on a coffee date or whatever - this is about you! I find now that family don't even ask how am I, do you have an upcoming appointment, as when they see me I look normal and I don't bring it up unless they do. Recently my baby sister was diagnosed with Cervical Cancer and hence the questions came and when I said that when I first met my Breast Surgeon, he said you will be my patient for the next 10 years, silence came! They hadn't realised the depth of it all. Feedback the next day from other sister confirmed this.
Whoops this is about you not me but you get the picture, we all feel altered and a little distant from our old lives!
Don't know where you are or if you are aware of the Otis Foundation - they offer free holidays for us, just need to get there and provide your own food.
https://www.bcna.org.au/services-and-support-groups/services/the-otis-foundation/