Why are we in hiding?
This started as a post on another discussion but I felt that it's importance to me meant it needed it's own spotlight. I started to diverge from the issue at hand with, "If anyone has an issue with m...
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I've always loved that song too @romla. I remember when my big sister bought the single - I think it was probably around the time of The Female Eunuch and the equal pay disputes. Re: the whipping off of things, I had a mental image of "the aliens are among us"! :-)
Please don't think that I am criticising those of you who have had reconstructions - I am most definitely not. I was just musing on a world where no-one would expect it. And where I would feel comfortable going anywhere without a mask, because I'm not so brave. I certainly wear my prosthesis for appearance as the damn thing is so uncomfortable after awhile as are the bras that I need to wear with it. If I wasn't so obviously lop-sided, I definitely wouldn't. I am so pleased that for many the reconstructions have been a really positive experience but I also know that there's others like @zoffiel who go through all of that pain and don't have a good outcome (although heartening to hear that the dates have not had an issue with it). And I'm hearing you about the questions @SoldierCrab - I've had women in bc groups think I've had a reconstruction and then are surprised when I say I haven't and don't know if I will.
What has surprised me is just how brave I'm not, anymore. I used to be someone who would say "Who gives a f*&k" and be happy to celebrate being different. I've realised that I've lost her somewhere along the way.
Please don't think that I am criticising those of you who have had reconstructions - I am most definitely not. I was just musing on a world where no-one would expect it. And where I would feel comfortable going anywhere without a mask, because I'm not so brave. I certainly wear my prosthesis for appearance as the damn thing is so uncomfortable after awhile as are the bras that I need to wear with it. If I wasn't so obviously lop-sided, I definitely wouldn't. I am so pleased that for many the reconstructions have been a really positive experience but I also know that there's others like @zoffiel who go through all of that pain and don't have a good outcome (although heartening to hear that the dates have not had an issue with it). And I'm hearing you about the questions @SoldierCrab - I've had women in bc groups think I've had a reconstruction and then are surprised when I say I haven't and don't know if I will.
What has surprised me is just how brave I'm not, anymore. I used to be someone who would say "Who gives a f*&k" and be happy to celebrate being different. I've realised that I've lost her somewhere along the way.