Why are we in hiding?
This started as a post on another discussion but I felt that it's importance to me meant it needed it's own spotlight. I started to diverge from the issue at hand with, "If anyone has an issue with m...
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I braved the waters of online dating after a botched double mastectomy and reconstruction. You really do not want to see my chest. Well, maybe that isn't true. I was pleasantly surprised at how many men a) said they didn't care b) didn't run screaming when faced with the reality. I know that sounds like I'm a bit of a worry when it comes to dating, but I was.
Anyway, back to the subject. Most people don't care.
I enjoyed wigs but also had no problem being bald in public. Once again, the majority of people don't care. They really don't.
When it comes to the ones who do want to stare, snigger or point, I've had the pleasure of delivering a few salutary lessons on what it is like to be publicly shamed. Or I decide they are fuckwits who don't deserve recognition. Depends on my mood at the time.
The hardest part for me, and I've had a bit of experience, has been dealing with well meaning comments because it was obvious what was happening. Realistically, that is the same as happens when you are heavily pregnant or on crutches with a broken leg or walking around with a black eye. Or all three at once..Humans are humans and there is a percentage that do not know when to keep their heads shut.
I'd encourage anyone who is hairless and stressing about it to drive to another town or suburb where you don't know anyone, rip off the headwear and go shopping. Just try it. The world doesn't end and maybe that is a way to normalise what is an all too common situation.
Anyway, back to the subject. Most people don't care.
I enjoyed wigs but also had no problem being bald in public. Once again, the majority of people don't care. They really don't.
When it comes to the ones who do want to stare, snigger or point, I've had the pleasure of delivering a few salutary lessons on what it is like to be publicly shamed. Or I decide they are fuckwits who don't deserve recognition. Depends on my mood at the time.
The hardest part for me, and I've had a bit of experience, has been dealing with well meaning comments because it was obvious what was happening. Realistically, that is the same as happens when you are heavily pregnant or on crutches with a broken leg or walking around with a black eye. Or all three at once..Humans are humans and there is a percentage that do not know when to keep their heads shut.
I'd encourage anyone who is hairless and stressing about it to drive to another town or suburb where you don't know anyone, rip off the headwear and go shopping. Just try it. The world doesn't end and maybe that is a way to normalise what is an all too common situation.