What is the hardest and what is the easiest
I was trawling through the discussions as I do most 4am's and came to wondering what is hard and what is easier for each of us to deal with. I wasn't even sure whether to post this (so please take it...
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I hated it all the diagnosis the waiting then treatments , surgery chemo that i continued to be allergic to change Chemo again and again ... the inability to think straight A 5 month trip in chemo land turned into 9 months then Rads..... The isolation from the world.
Sister it tried to take me from me but I refused to allow that .... I fought back it has taken me over 4.5 yrs of fighting to reclaim who I am ... Just with no tits....
it has taken counselling and a support group who have said yes I have been there you will overcome that give it time...
so you will get through this roller coaster ride you didn't buy a ticket for and you will learn things from it...
Positives - my 2 boys with autism are more independent than they would be if I had not become so ill on chemo.... it has enabled me to push them more it the things they can do .... my youngest became the carer at 15 to us all ... joys of being divorced with no contact from ex. while she was doing her School certificate .... has it enabled her ... Yes she is in her 3rd year of Uni and has a maturity way beyond her years...
I now don't give a rat's arse what people think of my non reconstruction..a group I belonged to prior to surgery every one of them asked me the first time I returned to the group So when are you getting a reconstruction??? I was mortified none of them had been to visit me or check on me over nearly 15 months of hell. unfortunately the 5th person who asked me that night I told in no uncertain terms if she had a problem with me being flat go and see a psychologist because I had been thru enough already and was happy flat.
... I am alive and reclaiming my life day by day I have seen another nearly 6 years of my kids lives and I am a part of supporting those coming behind me diagnosed with BC
yes you are sidelined right now but what skills are your children and partner learning while you are like this?
answer - independence to be able to stand up and be resilient in the face of crisis.
Go gentle on yourself you will find you in time and I know you will lead those coming behind you out of this smog we have to go through. you do it already.
Hugs
Soldiercrab xxox
Sister it tried to take me from me but I refused to allow that .... I fought back it has taken me over 4.5 yrs of fighting to reclaim who I am ... Just with no tits....
it has taken counselling and a support group who have said yes I have been there you will overcome that give it time...
so you will get through this roller coaster ride you didn't buy a ticket for and you will learn things from it...
Positives - my 2 boys with autism are more independent than they would be if I had not become so ill on chemo.... it has enabled me to push them more it the things they can do .... my youngest became the carer at 15 to us all ... joys of being divorced with no contact from ex. while she was doing her School certificate .... has it enabled her ... Yes she is in her 3rd year of Uni and has a maturity way beyond her years...
I now don't give a rat's arse what people think of my non reconstruction..a group I belonged to prior to surgery every one of them asked me the first time I returned to the group So when are you getting a reconstruction??? I was mortified none of them had been to visit me or check on me over nearly 15 months of hell. unfortunately the 5th person who asked me that night I told in no uncertain terms if she had a problem with me being flat go and see a psychologist because I had been thru enough already and was happy flat.
... I am alive and reclaiming my life day by day I have seen another nearly 6 years of my kids lives and I am a part of supporting those coming behind me diagnosed with BC
yes you are sidelined right now but what skills are your children and partner learning while you are like this?
answer - independence to be able to stand up and be resilient in the face of crisis.
Go gentle on yourself you will find you in time and I know you will lead those coming behind you out of this smog we have to go through. you do it already.
Hugs
Soldiercrab xxox