What is the hardest and what is the easiest
I was trawling through the discussions as I do most 4am's and came to wondering what is hard and what is easier for each of us to deal with. I wasn't even sure whether to post this (so please take it...
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It is a process and it does take time. I would not say any of it is easy but some things are definitely harder than others. Yes, chemo was one of the hardest bits for me but so was finding a way forward to a different life after treatment (and with Tamoxifen, then ovary removal and Femara).
I learned to keep my eyes focused, mostly, on what was in front of me. Focusing too much on what had been or might have been was not helpful. Yes, my life was different but I soon learned that I could make it better or worse with my thoughts and actions.
Our life is never static. There are many things that push it one way or the other. But breast cancer really shoved me completely off the track. I don’t think, even 5 years later, that I am back on the freeway. But I have found a quieter road that feels more me than the freeway ever did!
Life after treatment for me was about energy. Treatment had drained even my reserve tanks and I found I had to adjust my way of doing things. I had to learn to look after me first. Now that is hard! I was so used to being there for everyone else. It felt selfish to put myself first but I soon realised that this was the only way to recover and ever truly be there for others again.
I learned about what gave me energy and what took it away. At first I had to focus mostly on being really kind and gentle with myself. I needed to rebuild the energy reserves so that life could feel in balance again.
I’m still working it all out but mostly I feel pretty happy with where I am and how I am now. It takes time. One step at a time. I have found a different but in many ways better me. Not easy but definitely worthwhile.
I learned to keep my eyes focused, mostly, on what was in front of me. Focusing too much on what had been or might have been was not helpful. Yes, my life was different but I soon learned that I could make it better or worse with my thoughts and actions.
Our life is never static. There are many things that push it one way or the other. But breast cancer really shoved me completely off the track. I don’t think, even 5 years later, that I am back on the freeway. But I have found a quieter road that feels more me than the freeway ever did!
Life after treatment for me was about energy. Treatment had drained even my reserve tanks and I found I had to adjust my way of doing things. I had to learn to look after me first. Now that is hard! I was so used to being there for everyone else. It felt selfish to put myself first but I soon realised that this was the only way to recover and ever truly be there for others again.
I learned about what gave me energy and what took it away. At first I had to focus mostly on being really kind and gentle with myself. I needed to rebuild the energy reserves so that life could feel in balance again.
I’m still working it all out but mostly I feel pretty happy with where I am and how I am now. It takes time. One step at a time. I have found a different but in many ways better me. Not easy but definitely worthwhile.