Very dark place at the moment

Hi Nicole, it's just so true.  They are matter of fact, well just do this, this, this and it'll be ok.  We have pulled together now we know where the problem is, and going to have a few days away just for ourselves.  So that will be a nice positive thing to do.  My husband loves living here, I of course miss my kids, and men don't have that maternal drive we have no matter how old our kids are.  I have paid for them to all visit as I know we are the ones who moved away.  But they have other issues and expect for us to keep them financially etc even though they are on good wages.  We actually felt us moving away would help them stand on their own feet even though two are still in our house.  But we have made provision this year for me to visit a couple of times and bring the grandchildren over again.  I just thought I'd be feeling more positive about myself by this time and not have so much joint pain still, which makes sitting on floors here very hard all the time. Thank you so much for your advice too, I look around me here and people have so little yet so happy, I have to take a leaf out of their book. Thank you again, Sue ??