Super sensitive!

Just reading some old posts on mood swings whilst I'm muttering under my breath what I'd really like to say to some people. Thought about venting on paper but someone may find it. So I'm going to vent here if you dont mind. My home over 26 years of marriage to an old fashioned farmer has consisted of putting myself 2nd then (after 3 kids) 3rd, 4th, 5th etc. Now that I am putting myself first my house doesn't work. But it's my husband that I resent. He is still not being thoughtful, nor helpful, and it's still all about him. In fact nothing he says or does helps and I feel I'd be doing better without him at least I'd be able to sleep as he snores 24/7 & gets very aggressive if I wake him to shut him up. Should I grin and bear all this? Or should I just worry about what I need and deal with him when this is all over? Keep in mind I'm just starting my journey - chemo first then op 1,2 or 3 then radiation then oral chemo. Lost for how to deal with these feelings. HELP.....