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Sorry
It has been a long time since I posted on here and that is entirely because of the way I chose to deal with what was happening around me at that time. I forgot that the ONLY control we really have over what happens in life is how we choose to react to things.
Gee I really thought I had learnt that lesson when I went through my breast cancer diagnosis and treatment! But I obviously had not!
So, I would like to apologize to BCNA for my words and reactions at that time, for any hurt or added stress that I may have caused staff at that time.
I would also like to apologize to any members, especially those who had become such terrific friends who I may have hurt with my words at that time.
I would also like to forgive myself for not recognizing that my load had become too heavy at that time. Adean says this well in her recent post about being four years clear of breast cancer. Sometimes we try to be superwomen but that is just not being fair to ourselves and those around us! It is just not healthy.
Now I would like to say how wonderful and heartwarming it is to see so many positive posts and helpful, caring comments, so many people reaching out to each other on here again. We are so fortunate to have a safe place to come and share our ups and downs as we get through the shock of diagnosis, the long days of treatment and then the 'what now?' of recovery. My heart also goes out to those who unfortunately live with a secondary diagnosis and the never ending treatment path. I so hope that they find a cure for this awful disease very, very soon.
So, I will try to remember that the only real control I have over anything is how I react to it. So sorry I forgot that last year. Wishing everyone the best for whatever stage you may be at. Enjoy if you're having a good day and sending a gentle hug if it's not going so well at the moment. Deanne xxx
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That's what I love about all the wonderful women on here, they DO understand when you are having a moment. Thanks Maryrose.
Deanne xxx
Lovely to be welcomed back. I feel better already. Deanne xxx
Thanks for the warm welcome, Paula. I did need some time away, you are right!
Looking forward to catching up with where everyone is at. Deanne xxx
I hope Daina knew that I never for one second ever thought that the situation was not just as upsetting for her or that she was not doing her absolute best to try and fix things. But it was just too much for me with what else was happening in my life at that time. I had to take a break and figure some things out. But I did miss my BCNA friends a lot!! I have learnt so much from reading the posts and comments on this site. I will keep in touch. ?? Deanne xxoo
Hi Deanne, you had a bad trot there for awhile- training for treking in Nepal and then almost travelling there when the earthquake hit.I'm not sure why you need to apologise - you've always been a great support at this network. We all had a right to feel annoyed when this network was totally changed without any notice and definitely not for the better.It's frustrating when life doesn't go according to plan. I've just spent the last 3 weeks in bed with pneumonia- didn't see that one coming!! Not a darn thing I can do about it but rest and take antibiotics- out of my control. I hope you've got off to a good start for 2016. Love Tonya xx
Thanks Christine. xox
Hi there, I think we all need that cranky crack it time . Lol so nice to see you again, you gave so much good advice to others so you can continue again, after all your a long term inmate too. Adean xxx
Hey Deanne
Apologies not necessary here we all understand the crappy times so you shouldnt stress about it.
Take care of yourself ????
Maryrose
Welcome back Deanne, it will be lovely to see your thoughtful, insightful comments and posts once again. Cheers, Jane xx
Hey you. Welcome back, have noticed you popping in occasionally. Sometimes we all just need to step away from all things BC for a while. Have missed your posts. Lovely to see you back again.
Paula xxxx
