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So my family have asked me to get help
I'm coming up to my 1st anniversary of being diagnosed. In a recent conversation with my family I have been told that I need to get help, that I need to find someone to talk to because my feelings are...
Dear LisaO
i suppose it depends on priorities - I wouldn't have been much good talking about retirement when I was 52. I'm 72 now and still not talking about it! A life threatening illness can do many things, one of the least worrisome would seem to be a heightened sense of living in and enjoying the present. You have learned the hard way that things aren't always what you planned. And you aren't ready to start making assumptions about the long term future just yet. I suspect your family in turn wants to get back As soon as possible to what was normal before cancer rudely interrupted. Because their normal hasn't changed as much as yours. You may need some help but only in how to explain your perfectly understandable feelings to your family. Your husband sounds very supportive - can you just talk to him and see if he can understand your hesitancy about making long term plans yet? Best wishes.
i suppose it depends on priorities - I wouldn't have been much good talking about retirement when I was 52. I'm 72 now and still not talking about it! A life threatening illness can do many things, one of the least worrisome would seem to be a heightened sense of living in and enjoying the present. You have learned the hard way that things aren't always what you planned. And you aren't ready to start making assumptions about the long term future just yet. I suspect your family in turn wants to get back As soon as possible to what was normal before cancer rudely interrupted. Because their normal hasn't changed as much as yours. You may need some help but only in how to explain your perfectly understandable feelings to your family. Your husband sounds very supportive - can you just talk to him and see if he can understand your hesitancy about making long term plans yet? Best wishes.