@Harvey1903 you have every right to want and expect a little tlc.
My husband was as useless as tits on a bull. And like you it was just the two of us. I didnt fair well on weekly paclitaxol and literally dragged my arse from one week to the next for treatment. I remember completely losing it with him one weekend because all i wanted was to have my floors vacuumed and washed without asking 50 times. Well later that day he said he was talking to our neighbour who said she'd be happy to do floors. I was so mad with him i told to shove the vac and mop where the sun dont shine!!
Obviously he didn't get the point :(