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Anonymous
8 years agoA counsellor once told me that cancer is like a book in your library. You need to find a place for it. You can take it out and read it, but can then put it away again. Your friend's reaction says more about her than you. I think anniversaries are important and different for individuals.
The online world is a strange beast. I recently commented online to a friend that however she chose to acknowledge breast cancer, I appreciated it. A woman who didn't know me attacked me and said that if I'd had cancer, or known anyone with cancer I wouldn't have said that. It was a strange assumption that I should behave in a certain way as someone who has had cancer. I no longer choose to engage with people who say things like that to me. It's just upsetting, but I am only responsible for my own beliefs and behaviour.
The online world is a strange beast. I recently commented online to a friend that however she chose to acknowledge breast cancer, I appreciated it. A woman who didn't know me attacked me and said that if I'd had cancer, or known anyone with cancer I wouldn't have said that. It was a strange assumption that I should behave in a certain way as someone who has had cancer. I no longer choose to engage with people who say things like that to me. It's just upsetting, but I am only responsible for my own beliefs and behaviour.