Self image

What you are going through is very normal...just not much fun. I had a left mastectomy and a rebuild with expanders then implants. As I was almost 60 I was well into menopause when the Cancer turned up. Unfortunately it was my husbands favourite boob and he is still trying to bond with the real one on the other side. Lol. I am not sure how well your scaring is healing but mine was slow. On the nights I felt very sensitive about the missing boob I would wear a stretchy lacy top to bed. It just made me feel better. It has probably taken a year, and a new nipple for me to be very comfortable about wandering around naked like I used to. I do feel sorry for the husbands tho. They try so hard not to do or say the wrong thing, well the nice ones anyway. As for seeing the missing bit for the first time, I gave my husband two whiskeys then whipped off the dressings. I didn't know whether to laugh or cry at his reaction. He looked like a stunned mullet but recovered enough to pour himself another whiskey! This was 12 months ago. Sex is slowly recovering some of its spark, thanks to info from this groups shared experiences. I don't know that he will ever be fond of my rebuilt boob BUT it is pretty good in clothes. I swim in my usual swimsuit, wear low cut tops and have perkier boobs than in my 20's. Everything has an upside. It gets better. Laugh together. Don't take reactions too personally or seriously. We are very fortunate women. Stay in touch. This is a group you can talk about anything in. Love to you both. Julie