REPLY TO ALL FEELING LIKE CRAP

Hi Nicole, my heart goes out because your support network is not doing its job!

Like you, my BC nurse has not been much use apart from sending out literature and a bra at the beginning.

But I've been really lucky with my support network - people have come out of the woodwork to show their love and support. Even so, I've had a couple of people come as house guests and lounge around waiting for me to be the host!

I see lots of suggestions and advice in the comments, so I won't burden you with more. Except I can say that the 'three positive things' exercise is wonderful. My husband and I started it some years ago. At bedtime, we share three positive things that happened in the day. At first it was hard to find positive things some days, but as we persisted, we found it easier to see them. We laugh together on those days when the positive things are weather-related or about food. It's amazing how much food dominates our perceptions of the day! But we accept any positive thing without criticism and don't strive for big and meaningful positives. I think it has seeped through into other aspects of our lives and given us a brighter attitude to life in general. It's an exercise that we'll definitely continue for life.