I too have the same thing said to me when I wear my wig and make up. Because I still feel so weak and lacking in vitality I don't feel so great and wonder if they are just being nice.
Once I finished treatment I found that my friends seemed to think "that's it" and that I am now ok. As Tonya said it becomes a little confusing doesn't it. I am not sure how to go about getting back into life but I guess as I feel stronger and take on more it will all just evolve.
Glad to hear you are up to thinking about returning to work. I am sure that will help to give you a sense of normality.
Take care.
Love
Joy xx