Pushing away or clinging on?
looking back at your heaviest breast ca times, what would you say you did more: would you say you pushed your loved ones away or held on and got clingy ?
Forum Discussion
@"Summer Prevails" I think it's interesting that your comment says "I guess the way certain friends have treated me since then has made me really doubt myself".
I would be thinking more along the lines of it would make me doubt those friends!!! You can control you, you can't control others thoughts, actions, reactions and a lot of ladies here have had friends they thought they could rely on walk away and others come out of the blue and be champions and really get the assistance level needed. Either way you do what you need to do to get through and if others can't cope I truly believe that it is their issue. I read of a man who was going through cancer treatment who would actually sit in his wardrobe to be away from everyone so he could centre himself and focus on fighting the cancer cells, I don't see that as being wrong or selfish or neglecting anybody. It is simply a coping mechanism and that is also what erecting walls is. Big hugs to you lovely, let us know how you are getting along. Xx
I would be thinking more along the lines of it would make me doubt those friends!!! You can control you, you can't control others thoughts, actions, reactions and a lot of ladies here have had friends they thought they could rely on walk away and others come out of the blue and be champions and really get the assistance level needed. Either way you do what you need to do to get through and if others can't cope I truly believe that it is their issue. I read of a man who was going through cancer treatment who would actually sit in his wardrobe to be away from everyone so he could centre himself and focus on fighting the cancer cells, I don't see that as being wrong or selfish or neglecting anybody. It is simply a coping mechanism and that is also what erecting walls is. Big hugs to you lovely, let us know how you are getting along. Xx