Forum Discussion
Pushing away or clinging on?
looking back at your heaviest breast ca times, what would you say you did more: would you say you pushed your loved ones away or held on and got clingy ?
Many people, in fact most people I'd hazard, like to be needed. It makes us feel loved and appreciated. I really struggled with asking for help at the beginning of my BC, but got better at it as I went along.
The best way for me to approach it was to reverse the scenario. If it was one of my close friends who was ill and needing help, of course I'd want to help. In fact I'd be a bit hurt if they didn't ask me.
I'm someone who likes to be on my own as much as I like company. So sometimes I just didn't want any help or company.
These aspects are part of my character in general, not just in times of stress. I think most people with a skerrick of emotional intelligence understand the ebbs and flows of wanting company and the desire to be alone.
So yes, I think it's OK to need people when you're sick, but also to withdraw. You've gotta do what you need to do to get through.
The best way for me to approach it was to reverse the scenario. If it was one of my close friends who was ill and needing help, of course I'd want to help. In fact I'd be a bit hurt if they didn't ask me.
I'm someone who likes to be on my own as much as I like company. So sometimes I just didn't want any help or company.
These aspects are part of my character in general, not just in times of stress. I think most people with a skerrick of emotional intelligence understand the ebbs and flows of wanting company and the desire to be alone.
So yes, I think it's OK to need people when you're sick, but also to withdraw. You've gotta do what you need to do to get through.